Perez Hilton’s money refused by Matthew Shepard Foundation

June 26th, 2009 // 90 Comments

When Perez Hilton filed a $25,000 lawsuit against Black Eyed Peas’ manager Polo Molina, he announced he’d be donating the proceeds to the Matthew Shepard Foundation. Turns out that not only was the foundation never informed of such a donation, they don’t want his money because he called a “fucking faggot.” Here’s the official statement from Judy Shepard:

The Matthew Shepard Foundation was surprised to learn this morning via media reports that blogger Perez Hilton (Mario Lavandeira) has announced he plans to donate, to our organization, the proceeds of a lawsuit he is contesting over an altercation which has been widely reported in recent days.

We had no advance notice or contact from Mr. Hilton or his representatives regarding this proposal, nor any communication since he posted this plan to his website.

We do not know the details of the lawsuit, whether it has been filed, the nature of his claims or the likely outcome. But because the lawsuit presumably involves the physical attack prompted by Mr. Hilton’s admitted use of an anti-gay slur, the Foundation will be unable to accept any funds obtained in such a manner.

We very much appreciate the generosity of the offer to support our continuing work to memorialize Matthew through activism in defense of sexual minorities and in favor of understanding, compassion, and acceptance. But because so much of our work involves education to reduce the use of hateful language against gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgendered persons, or those so perceived, it would be inappropriate for us to benefit financially from circumstances in which such a verbal attack was involved.

While we applaud Mr. Hilton’s apology to the LGBT community and their loved ones for his use of such a slur, we also feel compelled to point out that use of epithets can often lead to physical violence, as it appears it may have in this case, and that the Matthew Shepard Foundation has worked for more than 10 years to bring to people’s attention the consequences of hateful or intolerant language.

Judy Shepard
Chair, MSF Governing Board

“We also feel compelled to point out that use of epithets can often lead to physical violence, as it appears it may have in this case.” Read: We’re a foundation trying to stop hate crimes against homosexuals and even we thought he had it coming.

Thanks to Michael who’s never seen a man get cockslapped by irony before. Until now.

Photo: WENN

  1. ugh

    Stop talking about this clown.

  2. Spider-Man


    ownage on the highest level.

    farewell perez hilton.

    get the fuck out of dodge and never show your sad exscuse of a face ever again.

  3. StEvec

    goodbye douchebag Mario Lavandeira a/k/a Hilton………..doesn’t his actual last name mean toilet in Spanish?

  4. ambidextrous handjob

    #45 Are you fucking retarded? Yeah, being afraid to go into a crappy black neighborhood that you wouldn’t want to go into in the first place is EXACTLY the same thing as denied entry to a nice club or restaurant or pool that you actually WANT to get into. You never had to think twice about that happening to you so don’t pull that crap for a sympathy vote. So now you’re whining because whites always got first crack at the best jobs and now you have to adjust to a stupid government quota because no one did it voluntarily ages ago? And it was your turn to be at the head of the line and it’s not FAIR? Tough shit, sometimes you have to pay for the abuses that previous generations had fun committing. The system wasn’t fair to others then, and maybe you think it isn’t fair to you now because you have to make room for them. But you can still get a cab anywhere at night, no store detectives follow you around in Macy’s, no cops pull you over just to make sure your ride isn’t stolen and being called “whitey” will never make your kids cry.
    So shut up with your poor-me-I’m-really-just-like-them-too whining, defeat boy. You lose.

  5. Jim


    It’s not really the best possible source for a donation since they know where the money would be coming from. I would say its akin to an anti-war organization or one that helps out African refugees accepting blood diamonds as a donation.

    Now if that loser didn’t mention that the donation was going to be from proceeds from that ridiculous lawsuit, then there should be no reason not to accept it. Though I highly doubt Perez Hilton is going to be doing that since he won’t get any media attention from it

  6. Chris

    “But one reason the “backlash” isn’t the same is because white people have never been oppressed in this country, so any race-based insult really has no sting. There’s nowhere that we can’t go, no jobs that have been ever denied to us because of our race. We never had to think twice if we would be allowed in a restaurant or a bathroom.”

    The Irish, Italians, Slavs, and Jews would like to have a word with you.

  7. Confucius

    What a noble decision from the foundation. Subarashi! I hope Perez Hilton changes his bad attitude and improve for the better.

  8. ambidextrous handjob

    #56 The Irish, Italians, Slavs and Jews would also like a word with you because none of them are a “race”. And any discrimination they suffered was at the hands of your average white American gentile. And “whitey” is still the worst you can call him.

  9. justifiable

    #44 deedle, Judy Shepard lost her son at the hands of people who thought “faggots” didn’t deserve to live. So now she should take money from someone who used that word in the same way his killers did? And what’s worse, from someone who’s gay himself and should know more than anyone what that word can mean? Perez only offered it AFTER he filed the lawsuit when he saw what the backlash was. How about he honors Matthew Shepard by dropping the lawsuit altogether? Guess that never occured to Mr. Crusader, huh?

    You know, Germany paid out reparations to people who lost their relatives in the camps – and many families threw the blood money back in their faces. It was perfectly good money, too, just like Perez’s money would be, right?

    Fuck Perez for trying to ease his guilty conscience with a check – it’s an insult to the Shepherd family to even make the offer.

  10. Natalie

    Good! I absolutely HATE perez!

  11. DCMikeRotch

    Perez is like our generation’s Ru Paul, but with much more of a sex offender vibe

  12. captain america


  13. Chris

    “The Irish, Italians, Slavs and Jews would also like a word with you because none of them are a “race”.”

    Neither is homosexuality, yet you used it as a connecting factor in your original post.
    So race is solely defined by skin color? Ethnic or religous discrimination doesn’t count because they weren’t black? Apparently “real” discrimination only counts to you when it’s based on someone’s skin color.

    You made the argument that white people have “never been oppressed in this country.” When confronted with the fact that white people have in fact been oppressed in this country (hell, I didn’t even bring up the lily-white Mormons, who were essentially banished from nearly every place they settled until they finally moved to Utah, and even then fought off an invasion from the US Army), you changed the nature of your assertion by then implying that ethnic and religious discrimination supposedly didn’t count. It certainly wasn’t irrelevant to the people who lived at that time.

  14. ambidextrous handjob

    #63 WTF? Hold on, get your story straight here. it was #1 & 9 who “used homosexuality as a connecting factor” to race, not me, and it was a crappy argument to boot. #28 asked how come it’s OK for a black guy to call a white guy a cracker and how come there’s no backlash. You got a problem with their reasoning, talk to them about it.

    It’s not how “I” define race here – it’s how the government and society have defined it because that’s what sets the color bar for racial oppression. On your driver’s license under “race”, does it say W – or Italian? Or Irish? If you’re a Slav or a Jew, would you have used a “white” or “colored” bathroom in the south? Those ethnic or religious distinctions ARE irrelevant here, just as they are on your driver’s license.

    My statement is about white mainstream America because that’s what #28 invoked when he came up with “cracker” “white boy” and “redneck”. You want to talk ethnic subgroups, talk to #28 about coming up with some different names. Ethnic and religious distinctions are also two very different things, and I never brought those, or cultural differences into it – you did. Again, talk to #28. Those groups have all dealt wth their share of epithets, which were given to them by – - yup, white mainstream America. That white mainstream American population was never oppressed, so racial slurs against it have very little impact today – that’s the argument. And if you can find me an Italian or Slav who’s cut to the core today by being called “white boy” I’ll be happy to hear about it.

    And in my opinion, if the white mainstream discriminates against a white subgroup, it’s still not “whites” who are oppressed. Whites as a group have not been denied the vote or barred from owning land because they were white. Whites as a group were not rounded up and put on reservations because they were white. Whites as a group were not interned in camps, or sold as slaves because they were white. You get the idea..

    The “lily white” Mormons, btw, were run out of many states largely due to practicing polygamy which was against the law, NOT because they were white.
    How about this? John Kennedy was Catholic, of Irish heritage, and many people were afraid his primary allegiance would be to the Pope, not America. He had to justify and explain his religious convictions during the campaign while Nixon didn’t, and some people still refused to vote for him. So was he “oppressed” or discriminated against because he was white – or because he was Catholic? Would calling him “white boy” have cut him to the quick or would it have been almost meaningless in terms of an insult?

  15. Hmmm

    All this assumes that he will actually get the $25,000. How’s that for optimism? What would be funny is if some organization accepts it and he doesn’t win. Anyone think he’ll put the money up himself?

  16. Perez is a frickin hypocrite…..amazing the foundation recognized it…

  17. Lala

    ambidextrous handjob = GENIUS

  18. NastyBedazzler

    #16 Who says I can’t use the word nigger? I use it all the time to describe black people I hate. I don’t consider myself racist because I don’t hate black people because they’re black, I just hate a lot of black people because they are loud and obnoxious. I swear, it seems like a lot of black people were raised by animals in a magical place called Who-can-be-the-loudest-piece-of-shit-in-the-room-at-any-given time-ville

    #19 is an idiot.

    I don’t understand the massive backlash against the word “faggot”. I’m a straight white male and I love and use it daily. All this talk about prohibited words is getting annoying. Any one should be able to say whatever the hell they want, who gives a fuck. Everybody is turning into a giant pussy these days.

  19. Dude

    #68 I understand your point, because I absolutely use the word “cracka-ass-muthafucka” right before I kick a silly white boy in the head for saying the shit you just uttered!

    It’s cowardly pieces of shit like you that’s caused my to break three toes over the years! Three toes in two ass-kicking incidents because some white boy had his fill of liquid courage and tried me!

    I will not hesitate to fuck you up royally if you EVER say that shit to me in the real world and I have the court cases to prove it! Guess what, 30 days probation one time and an acquittal the other!

    I can walk into any court in this country and walk out a free man if one of you pinked dicked, racist fucks talks that shit to me, I’ve proven it!

    So keep running you mouth, coward. Karma will come to get your ass, and I hope I’m its representative!

  20. Nero

    Too fast,he even doesn’t have the money yet.

  21. Gando

    It’s good to know that there’re foundations with principles.

  22. joe

    The more I look at perez the more i think “what a phenomenally ugly man”

  23. Dirk

    Perez is the manifestation of a plume of smoke trailing
    out of a medeval troll’s ass.

    Pure evil, wrapped in a melon headed flabby punching bag
    of a body -begging to be slapped again.

    Hopefully more fists will find his smug mug with
    the immediacy of the constant insipid snipes
    he spews at those actually creating for a living.

    This man is a waste
    of web space and
    everyone’s time.

    May he disappear,
    like the puff of
    Troll smoke
    that bore him.

  24. M

    hahahahahhaha anti-gay my ass. this story is too hilarious on so many levels

  25. #11. Katy Perry can sing and Rhianna is a giant pop star who makes music. No matter what you think of them, at least they have a reason to be at awards shows and the spot light. PH is just a talent-less leech.

  26. ambidextrous handjob

    #68 Oh, I GET It now!! “Nigger” is the descriptive term for people who are loud, obnoxious and raised by animals to be the loudest piece of shit in the room at any time! FINALLY, it is defined!!! So that must make YOU a nigger, right? Because terms that describes human ACTIONS or BEHAVIOR can’t include race. You need to be able to use a word that describes an action to every human who exhibits it and to anyone who behaves like that – just as “racist:” can describe people of all colors, and a “bigot” can be anyone who acts like one. It has to be one or the other, you just can’t have it both ways. And you’ve clearly chosen to describe actions. Thank you, you perfect nigger, you cleared up a lot of things! Yes, NastyBedazzler is clearly a nigger.

  27. theinfidel

    hahahaha. perez’s site’s advertisements/sponsors have dropped off like flies… woohoo!

  28. Charles Whittimore Farnsworth III

    #75 Speaking on behalf of myself and other white people everywhere, I find your post grossly offensive.

  29. Archibald Pemberton Smythe, Esq.

    *harrumphs loudly @ #75*

    *goes back to drinking coffee, reading NY Times*

  30. The big deal is that a lot of people (both black and gay) feel that those words shouldn’t be used at all. Another big deal is that when black people use the “N” word all the time as you claim, they use it in a non-derogatory way. (To take back the negative meaning and own it for themselves.) When Perez used it, he used it as a derogatory attack on someone the same way that homophobes use the word as an attack on gays. That’s the big deal.

  31. The big deal is that a lot of people (both black and gay) feel that those words shouldn’t be used at all. Another big deal is that when black people use the “N” word all the time as you claim, they use it in a non-derogatory way. (To take back the negative meaning and own it for themselves.) When Perez used it, he used it as a derogatory attack on someone the same way that homophobes use the word as an attack on gays. That’s the big deal.

  32. Balls McCoy

    he’s a hypocrite, his shit is over. fuck him.

  33. alex

    Perez Hilton is the aspiration of today’s youth : accomplish nothing, strive for nothing, live off the accomplishments of others.

    I feel genuinely sorry for any of his fans and I think the world would be a better place without him and ambulance chasing lawyers and all other diseases.

  34. ace

    It’s good to see some organizations won’t accept any type of “blood money”.

  35. Jeremy

    Why can’t some words just be bad? The N word, F word, B word (b*tch), they can all be offensive to different people, not just the ones they were designed for. I’m Indian-American and I would still be offended if someone called me the N word. Girls call each other the B word and it still does damage. A higher class African American could call a lower classed one the N word. And the F word to anyone can mean sissy which isn’t nice for any guy to hear. Perez WANTS attention. To be hated AND admired. He wants to feel special, the all knowing one of “tolerance”. Don’t give it to him. Behind all of that attention seeking, he isn’t an interesting person so we shouldn’t treat him like one.

  36. meito

    I wil put him in “Manhunt” the video game, part of the “white trash team”

  37. Cuddlez

    What??? I’m bi and I like to use the f-word. Members of OUR community can use it cause it’s in a completely different context.

    Ohhhhhh, I finally get black people.

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