In an interview with InTouch, Jon Gosselin reveals he’s tired of being blamed for his divorce from Kate Gosselin, and that she’s the one who pulled the plug as far back as October 2008. Kate also refused to seek marriage counseling and instead focused on her career:
On the timing of the divorce:
Let’s go back to October of last year — that’s when all of this happened. Kate basically came to me out of the blue and said, “I am done. You are going to live your life, and I am going to live my life.” I was like, “What?” I didn’t really know what was going on. When she said that, I was really upset and nervous.
On Kate’s reasons for ending it:
I think she initiated the split because she wanted a career. Maybe I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do, and she was going to move on regardless. I said, “Are you sure about this?”
On trying to work things out:
Yes, I asked, “What do I have to do to mend the relationship? What did I do wrong?” I was beating myself up about it. So I read a lot of books about personalities, like The Five Love Languages. Throughout the marriage, I felt like my personality had changed a lot. In December, I went to therapy. I asked Kate to come, but she didn’t want to. She said, “If you have a problem, go fix it.”
On the final straw:
We went to Utah on January 1. On January 12, she flew back with security and I stayed. That’s when I started to just hang out and meet people, and feel free. Not too many girls, just with my guy friends. I couldn’t do that for nine years. When I came back on the 17th, Kate and I weren’t talking. So I just said, “I’m moving out of the house,” and that was it.
On dating Hailey Glassman
Hailey — it started around May. She is the polar opposite of Kate. It’s really different. I feel good about myself and people see my good qualities. I’m not being put down. If I want to go out with my friends, Hailey says, “Oh, go out.” I’m not used to that. I was used to, “No, no, it’s your fault.” Sometimes I ask Hailey permission, like I used to do with Kate, and she says, “You don’t have to ask permission.” I was used to living like that, and now it’s like a breath of fresh air. You can have a balanced relationship but also spend time with your friends.
On how the kids are handling the divorce:
Even though they are young, it still hurts them. They can’t figure it out. They’re like, “Why aren’t they together? Why can’t you hug her?” The other day, Alexis said, “I want you and Mommy to be home together.” And it hurts because it’s not going to happen — and how do you explain that? I just let them know we love them no matter what. It’s hard. I feel like I failed them.
Man, that’s kind of sad. But look, the important thing is you can continue to exploit them for tons of cash and more mediocre pussy than you can shake a small Asian child at. Am I right? High five!
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Wow…did he eat his kids?
I don’t blame Jon for their divorce. The harpie pretty obviously caused that. I do blame him for turning into a sleazy douchebag since then.
He screwed his way out of the upper hand.
This guy is a pathetic loser.
Given he is receiving “life lessons” from Michael Lohan, I am not surprised he is taking such a cheap shot at Kate. Although their marital issues are public they should be civil and respectful with their comments in public. John has stooped so low and this will just make it harder for the kids and Kate, who is trying to keep things together. What an idiot!
He also said in the article that he feels as though he “lost his 20′s”. What a great quote for his kids will read someday. He will argue that he was just referring to being married to Kate but we all know he means all those years he was playing “daddy”. Now he’s trying to re-claim his youth by dating dumpy chicks and wearing ridiculous Ed Hardy shirts. He’s making a fool of himself!
He not only wanted out of the marriage-he wanted a break from those kids and to be a part time father. He knows this is the truth deep down. I wouldn’t let that crackhead Hailey within 10 feet of my kids.
“Maybe I wasn’t sure what I wanted to do.” When you grow up, you mean? Are you stuck on “fireman” or “NFL player”? Is that the problem? WAKE THE FUCK UP, DOUCHEBAG!! You’re a 30 something year old fat frump with a cunt ex-wife and a wah-wah attitude – AND 8 FUCKING KIDS!
“Throughout the marriage, I felt like my personality had changed a lot.” Yeah, you regressed. You had an IT job with the state that had great benefits, and you quit that after a few weeks because you can’t grow the fuck up and realize your 20′s are far behind you. You will not be designing for Ed Hardy and TLC will not give you a show on “How Jon Finds Pussy”.
Better pray that IT position’s still available because you’ll have child support x 8 in your “new” life.
Yeah, me too. I’m tired of getting blamed for stuff too. But he’s getting paid for it so I’ll just blame my stuff on him. And is he going on K-Fed’s diet? It’s just that I never pictured Jon Gosslin as a back-up dancer.
“the important thing is you can continue to exploit them for tons of cash and more mediocre pussy than you can shake a small Asian child at. Am I right?”
Fucking amen….
Until 8 more come along.
Big, blubbery belly + divorced with 8 kids + balding + tiny dick = NO PUSSY
Big, blubbery belly + divorced with 8 kids + balding + tiny dick + semi-fame = UP TO YOUR EYEBALLS IN MEDIOCRE PUSSY
Maybe Jon and K-WellFed can team up on Biggest Loser Couples
what is wrong with all of us..??
Kate is so mixed up in her thinking. She has berated , insulted., humiliated critizied and found fault with most every thing her husband Jon, the father of the children , said or did , even to the way he breathed .!! Yet she says every thing she does is for the children. She is so full of her self that she has no idea how silly her behavior is or how silly she sounds. It is my opinion Jon has by far, the better parenting skills.
Jon: “At first I was sad because I couldn’t fix the marriage. But then the protective shield of numbness I had cocooned myself in for years started to wear off, and suddenly I realized I didn’t have to touch that snarling plastic gargoyle bitch anymore and I was all, ‘fuck yeah’! It was like I had escaped an eternity in Hell without even trying. Happy day!”
@ 42 – Yeah! I’ll make a reality show! “Narcissist Plus Internet Access”.
Jon has made it obvious that this divorce is his fault. He lied about having an affair………..he is a joke. And he sure as heck dont care about his kids. He knew Kate was a perfectionist before he married her much less have 8 kids with her. He should do the man thang and leave the show……I refuse to watch it and see him drag multiple women in his childrens lives. Kate can handle the show alone. I say TAKE JON OFF and let him go back to work where he cant stay on the phone while with his kids……
Kate has a right to be angry she wanted eight children and ended up with nine. Jon’s immaturity i apparent in every phrase he utters,every move he makes. If you are old enough to have children especially the way these children were conceived,you are old enough to “suck it up” and do what is best for them. His every excuse goes back to I,Me,My. I have a relative who used the same excuses and left a wife and 3 children thirty years ago. After going through three marriages and divorce,he is only now earning the respect of his family and friends,although we never forget that first ‘”train wreck.”
Kate has a right to be angry she wanted eight children and ended up with nine. Jon’s immaturity i apparent in every phrase he utters,every move he makes. If you are old enough to have children especially the way these children were conceived,you are old enough to “suck it up” and do what is best for them. His every excuse goes back to I,Me,My. I have a relative who used the same excuses and left a wife and 3 children thirty years ago. After going through three marriages and divorce,he is only now earning the respect of his family and friends,although we never forget that first ‘”train wreck.”
On the shows I watched half the time John looked dazed, confused and clueless almost like he was stoned most of the time. No wonder Kate said some of the stuff she said, someone had to “wake him up” to the reality of his life. Unfortunately for Kate being the responsible parent took it’s toll on their marriage but I think the children are way better off without having John as an older, very needy sibling.
Have John take the children with him to NYC, or Europe, and hang out with Hailey or one of his other girlfriends and see how much “fun” that will be. It will be “fun” but the family kind of fun – not the “adult” fun John and his girlfriends want. So easy to have not a care in the world when the kids are hundreds of miles away. If the kids are with him any woman will demand John be present every minute of every day with regards to his children just like Kate. It won’t take long for the girlfriend to realize that John only has concern for himself and his needs and desires and I’m pretty sure no women is going to sign up to be the full time parent to his 8 children 24/7 while he’s day dreaming of heading out to the bars to find yet another young woman to run off with. He’ll just keep running to different women, anything to get away from his responsiblities. Any women stupid enough to “fall in love” with a man who has shirked his responsibility as a parent deserves what she’s getting.
John, get your head out of your ass and do the job you signed up for when you had eight children. Running around pretending to have no cares in the world is causing more harm to your children than you’ll ever realize. When the children are old enought they will see you for the irresonsible adult you are and I guarantee you they will not see you as the victim you portray yourself to be.
I can only hope that someday Kate will meet a man who is man enough to be a real father to your children.
I have to say, I’ve never read more filthy language in my life than I’ve read here. You people who write in with your filthy language must be the stupidist people in the world. Only people with an IQ of “0″ use language like you use. If you want anyone to take you seriously why don’t you try and talk and express yourselves without all the potty language. As for Jon, I’ve never blamed him for the mess they’re in. Kate is the one who is to blame for all of it. If Jon spoke to Kate the way she speaks to him, there would be such an uproar from women out there accusing Jon of verbal abuse that you would never here the end of it. She still can’t stop herself from making fun of him or putting him down every chance she gets. And Mady is just like her. All Kate has done is make the kids have no respect for Jon by the way she says and does things around Jon. I have a feeling that Kate is just like her mother, just like Mady is just like Kate and it is only going to get worse. You can tell that Cara is more like Jon. More calm and more unwilling to make a scene in front of people. Unlike Kate who likes to show off and make a scene in front of everyone just to be in the spotlight. She’s the reason that they are on for another season. And I’d like to know how many speaking engagements and books that people are still going to want her to do after she has made such a mess of her marriage. Then how will they be able to pay the bills and live in that big house that is “all mine”, as Kate said on one of her programs? She is too much of a publicity hog to put an end to that show. I can’t even watch them anymore because I can’t stand her. Take this show off the air and let these kids try and grow up normally (at least as normally as they can with a parent like Kate) .
I also wonder if she has ever asked herself the question, “How come I’m such a failure as a wife and my marriage is ending in divorce and I’ve only got 8 children and the Duggers have18 children and are still together after all these years?” Well the answer is that 1. they truly love each other, and 2. they respect each other,and 3. they are not selfish like you, Kate, and 4. they love God and include Him in their lives and many more reasons that you probably won’t understand.
I used to love watching this show but Jon’s behavior the last few months makes me sick. Kate was overbearing but with 8 kids running around I probably woudl be too. He is acting like a child and needs to grow up and remember that he made the choice to help bring 8 kids into this world!
jon i know what you are going thrw i ws there once myself it does fill good when you have a little freedom i was there for 14 years. your not a felling your kids just don’t put them in the middle & let them know you love them. BJ
It seems as though Kate may be regretting her initial decision about the split but I believe that both of them should go to marriage counselling. It’s a shame they can’t get pass who’s to blame and resolve to take their marriage vows seriously. They both need to grow up and quit being so stubborn and prideful.
It seems as though Kate may be regretting her initial decision about the split but I believe that both of them should go to marriage counselling. It’s a shame they can’t get pass who’s to blame and resolve to take their marriage vows seriously. They both need to grow up and quit being so stubborn and prideful.
Hmmm….if his kids were African American would the comment at the end have said “than you can shake a small black child at”? Think about it. I don’t like John much, but being racist to his kids is low.
So when did he become this Chunky Monkey??? Geezz, if you’re gonna jet set and do all the tabloid crap at least try to look the part!
It almost makes no sense for me to even comment on this, but if by some chance Jon ever gets the moment to read these.. He needs to grow the hell up, yes Kate may have ended it, and she was extremely demanding, but jesus – You have 8 kids, and for a while there you worked out of home, I only have two kids and I drive my husband crazy with things he could be helping me with when he gets home. Jon can say the two women are day and night, but let this one have even close to 8 kids and see how much she tells you “oh, just go out” Psh! Not happening brother.
It almost makes no sense for me to even comment on this, but if by some chance Jon ever gets the moment to read these.. He needs to grow the hell up, yes Kate may have ended it, and she was extremely demanding, but jesus – You have 8 kids, and for a while there you worked out of home, I only have two kids and I drive my husband crazy with things he could be helping me with when he gets home. Jon can say the two women are day and night, but let this one have even close to 8 kids and see how much she tells you “oh, just go out” Psh! Not happening brother.
So he is tired of being blamed? Well when you leave your wife and eight children to live a life like a single person, what do you expect? The reason people are blaming you is because you are not acting like a responable adult. This all happened because you wanted to leave the show. How was you going to provide for the children with out the show? The reason people are up set with you is because you are acting like a boy and not a husband and father. It must have been so hard for you to be famious and hang out at bars with girls, hard to hide and all! Sorry no pity for you here!
Jon I hope you get time to read this. I am telling you this as a Christain wife and mother. You took Kate for better or worse, until death parts you. What happened to that comment with God? I cried when I watched when you & Kate made the annoucement. You just don’t see how much you are damaging your family. When you say that you are going to do everything for your kids, I want to slap you. Everyone sees Jon that it is all about you. Maybe Kate had to vent sometimes, because you didn’t step up and be a man, a husband, and a father to your children. If I had 8 kids, with 6 of them being the same age, I know that my husband would realize how diffcult the day was for me and understand why I had to vent sometimes. That is when your commitment comes into play. Sometimes marriage & parenthood is 50/50, but most of the time it is one having to step up to the plate to get the job done, whether it is 50/50 or 75/25. Marriage is about give and take. Do you realize that everyone person you have sex with, you will be committing adultrey everytime? God only excuses you from your commitment of marriage, due to your spouse committing adultrey or if your spouse causes you to fall from God. You can tell how much Kate is hurt, but I do believe that everything is possible with God, you & Kate can reconcile your marriage with God. It won’t be easy, there has been alot of trust lost, a part of that trust will never be redeemed, but you have to keep your promise to God. Do you know that when you die, and if you are a child of God, you will have to answer to him, to why you were not the spiritual leadership to your family? If your children die and go to Hell, that you will be held responsible for that, because you fail as a father to tell them about salvation through Jesus Christ. Jon all that matters in the end is what you did for God. Living your present life style is displeasing to God. You need to get off your pity party & do what God expects you to be. Look at the way your are dressing, and the earrings. Somewhere down the road you may come to your senses and realize how selfish you have been. What are you going to tell those precious 8 children, when they start rebelling, you have acted like a rebelling teenager, so you can’t blame them, children copy what they see their parents doing. That is how they learn right from wrong. Children learn better by example. You have abandoned your family, so Jon can show up when he was to, when it is conveint for you to be a father,and then he gets to be the good parent, because you are taking them to do all the fun things and Kate is having to do all the parenting. I cry everyday for Kate and those beautiful children, I have been in a similar situation, it is a nightmare to have to deal with Kate’s pain of her husband being unfaithful to her, I know that she doesn’t want to wake up every morning and pretend in front of the kids, that everything is okay. It is an undescripable pain. It honestly feels like someone has ripped your heart out and drove over it with a truck over and over, again. It was hard for me to put on that happy face with 2 children, I can’t imagine what it is like with 8. I pray for you, that you will do the right thing, be the man that God created you to be. Kate if you have a chance to read this, if Jon truly repents before God asking for forgiveness, then you need to give him a chance to reconcile your marriage. It will be the hardest thing you will ever do, but it will also be rewarding, not only to see the children happy, because both of their parents love each other and are committed to them and to each other. Please email me if you need to talk. I am praying for you, Jon, and the children. If Jon dosen’t come to his senses, then I think the show should be renamed, The Kate & 8 show. If Jon doesn’t want to be a fulltime husband and father he doesn’t deserve any of the attention. Remember the family committment that you all read, and hung in your home?
What happened to those committments? The renewal of your vows in Hawaii was a total lie>
Jon I hope you get time to read this. I am telling you this as a Christain wife and mother. You took Kate for better or worse, until death parts you. What happened to that comment with God? I cried when I watched when you & Kate made the annoucement. You just don’t see how much you are damaging your family. When you say that you are going to do everything for your kids, I want to slap you. Everyone sees Jon that it is all about you. Maybe Kate had to vent sometimes, because you didn’t step up and be a man, a husband, and a father to your children. If I had 8 kids, with 6 of them being the same age, I know that my husband would realize how diffcult the day was for me and understand why I had to vent sometimes. That is when your commitment comes into play. Sometimes marriage & parenthood is 50/50, but most of the time it is one having to step up to the plate to get the job done, whether it is 50/50 or 75/25. Marriage is about give and take. Do you realize that everyone person you have sex with, you will be committing adultrey everytime? God only excuses you from your commitment of marriage, due to your spouse committing adultrey or if your spouse causes you to fall from God. You can tell how much Kate is hurt, but I do believe that everything is possible with God, you & Kate can reconcile your marriage with God. It won’t be easy, there has been alot of trust lost, a part of that trust will never be redeemed, but you have to keep your promise to God. Do you know that when you die, and if you are a child of God, you will have to answer to him, to why you were not the spiritual leadership to your family? If your children die and go to Hell, that you will be held responsible for that, because you fail as a father to tell them about salvation through Jesus Christ. Jon all that matters in the end is what you did for God. Living your present life style is displeasing to God. You need to get off your pity party & do what God expects you to be. Look at the way your are dressing, and the earrings. Somewhere down the road you may come to your senses and realize how selfish you have been. What are you going to tell those precious 8 children, when they start rebelling, you have acted like a rebelling teenager, so you can’t blame them, children copy what they see their parents doing. That is how they learn right from wrong. Children learn better by example. You have abandoned your family, so Jon can show up when he was to, when it is conveint for you to be a father,and then he gets to be the good parent, because you are taking them to do all the fun things and Kate is having to do all the parenting. I cry everyday for Kate and those beautiful children, I have been in a similar situation, it is a nightmare to have to deal with Kate’s pain of her husband being unfaithful to her, I know that she doesn’t want to wake up every morning and pretend in front of the kids, that everything is okay. It is an undescripable pain. It honestly feels like someone has ripped your heart out and drove over it with a truck over and over, again. It was hard for me to put on that happy face with 2 children, I can’t imagine what it is like with 8. I pray for you, that you will do the right thing, be the man that God created you to be. Kate if you have a chance to read this, if Jon truly repents before God asking for forgiveness, then you need to give him a chance to reconcile your marriage. It will be the hardest thing you will ever do, but it will also be rewarding, not only to see the children happy, because both of their parents love each other and are committed to them and to each other. Please email me if you need to talk. I am praying for you, Jon, and the children. If Jon dosen’t come to his senses, then I think the show should be renamed, The Kate & 8 show. If Jon doesn’t want to be a fulltime husband and father he doesn’t deserve any of the attention. Remember the family committment that you all read, and hung in your home?
What happened to those committments? The renewal of your vows in Hawaii was a total lie>
Kate is a real cunt. I remember the episode in the store when she was yelling and barking orders at Jon. She had no respect for him at all. The woman is unbearable to be around. Sometimes you have to see your children less to get away from your sadistic bitch cunt of an ex-wife. Jon is a good father. Kate is the biggest TV whore. She wouldn’t let her kid have a drink of water cause the camera’s were going to start rolling yet picked up her own glass and drank it in front of the kid. I’m on Jon’s side. Go get some of that younger pussy Jon. Have fun. Live. Be Free from that bitch cunt of an ex-wife.
Yes, Kate is controlling, though Jon could’ve grown some balls and left her before they had 8 kids. It would’ve been a lot easier to divorce with NO kids or just the twins. Instead, they try to “repair” their messed up marriage by bringing more children into this world. This ‘mistake’ just happened to snag them the master of all jackpots.
Let’s face it. Jon’s a lazy slob that no woman in her right mind would want. Kate is a controlling bitch. Jon’s galavanting around with young tramps may be a ‘typical’ way to deal with a divorce, but Jon got rid of the normal tag after he had 8 kids and went public. These kids aren’t stupid. The information about their mother and father isn’t going to miraculously disappear by the time they get old enough to become curious about the truth.
Yes, it’s unfortunate Kate was controlling and didn’t let Jon ‘play’ enough, yet once again, grow some balls man. You’re a fucking father of 8. You’re not some hot movie star. You are a fat slob. You have no ‘real’ job. Be a father, quit whoring yourself around; it’s gross and distasteful.
Kate, good job on the divorce though you’re still a controlling bitch. Chill out a little and maybe men can stand to be around you. Jon, you are a fat, disgusting slob. No woman in their right mind would be all over you if you didn’t have a huge cash cow. Your main responsibility is the kids; you made your bed…lay down.
Now what do we have to look forward to???? Octomom…. Someone shoot me now…
Women’s unbearable to be around. Sometimes you see your children off at his ex-wife of a sadistic bitch cunt have to get. John is a good father. Kate’s biggest TV whore. She would not let her baby have a drink of water because the camera is rolling start were still raised his glass and drank it in front of the child. I am in favor of John. Go get some of the young cat John. Have fun. Live. That bitch of an ex-wife cunt free.